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pride in helping others do better
By Ron Kule of Sales Training services, Inc.
I believe my value to others is measured by how much service or help I can give to others. My life seems fulfilled when I can assist another to live better, make a goal they would like to achieve easier, believe more in themselves, or do their jobs a little better or easier.
My personal skills to easily communicate concepts, to sales training, to public speaking and to being a good listener who can easily understand most points of view help me tremendously in that regard; this is a source of pride for me.
Once I had a salesperson come to me and offer $100 for 15 minutes of my time, to help her identify what she could do better in her selling. I was able to help her immediately, and she told me that it was the best $100 she ever spent in her life! Now more than 20 years later I have met her again, and she still feels the same way. She had made a successful career in sales.
My pride in the above story is that I was able to pick out the one thing she needed to work on, and then she made a career out of something she wanted so much to do well. It feels great to have been a small part of her success.
Sometimes helping others win big actually gives me the better win, because as the donor of the help I get back two-fold - the giving and the success of others - what I gave; in other words, helping others has always been a definite plus for me as well.
My public speaking experiences have taken me through 17 countries. The speeches have been fun to deliver, but the best part came when I inspired another to do the same; when they came to me and asked how they could do that, too.
Public speaking is actually easy to do well. The audience "elects" the speaker as a "cause" point in the communication, and themselves as the "effect" points. Kowing this, the public speaker who assumes the role and speaks to his audience with confidence, pride and conviction will have success with his audience, no matter what the message.
Another tip is to always speak to individuals in the audiences. Groups are made up of individuals, so speaking to different individuals in the groups at different times will allow the rest of the audience members to experience real communication, rather than feel they are not being addressed at all.
Speakers who speak to "audiences" as a generality, or worse yet, speak to no one in particular - who do not address any one individual at any time - bore their publics, because none in the audience can witness a real live communication, since the message is going out to the "room" and not to the group composed of individuals.
The pride of watching a good speaker speak to one individual at a time and eventually to each person in a group, knowing it was you who gave them that tip, is a good feeling. Watching the audience's rapport with that speaker makes one feel like he has done something worthwhile by assisting another to speak better.
I recall one occasion in China when a difficult concept was being discussed, and the group just was not understanding me. My translator was frowning, but gamely trying to convey the idea to the seminar students. Suddenly I realized my translator had not grasped the notion, so I stopped addressing the group, handled the mis-understood parts with my translator and then allowed her to tell the audience once again - this time with a big grin on her face - what she now fully understood. The expressions on her face and the others was priceless...and the feeling was definitely pride.
Pride stemming from service to others is not a bad thing, and actually is worthwhile to anyone wishing to feel it.
If this article has increased your understanding of pride and has whetted your desire to feel it, too, I welcome your questions about how to go about helping others live and work better and easier.
The best pride one can feel is that of having completed a job well done helping others!
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Contributor's Note
My samples of pride would be well-complemented by yours if you would share them with me.
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Thank you for sharing this very interesting intel, Ron.
This is a 5 star article and should be brought to the top again.
If we could all agree to help just one person, we would all have one true friend and one less enemy.
What effect would that have on the world? We can only try.
Best wishes.
Frederick
If I am here to make everyone else's life better, Why are they here?
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